Now that I know my most negative thought, what do I do?

In the previous blog you learned about your Personal Law and I taught you the first part of an exercise to find out what it is.

The second part of this exercise, once you have the most negative thought, is to identify how that thought has been repeating itself in your life.

How have you attracted situations that make you feel exactly how you think of yourself?

This exercise will help you identify the internal areas that you have to work on to achieve happiness.

Take a piece of paper and divide it into four columns.

• In the first, make a list of those people.

• In the second write the behavior that bothers you.

• In the third write the emotion that is activated in you.

• In the last column write what person or situation in your childhood made you feel this way.

People that affect meBehavior of the personEmotion that is activatedSimilar person or situation in my childhood  

Your thoughts about yourself affect all your relationships. If that is what you unconsciously think of yourself, how can others love you? How can you be successful in your life and your relationships? Once you discover your “personal law” it is very important to change it to achieve your “eternal law.” If, for example, you discover that your “personal law” is “no one loves me”, change it to a positive affirmation like “everyone loves me.” Repeat the positive affirmation every time you start to feel your lie or personal law. This way your will, little by little, change one thought for another. In the next blog I will explain about affirmations.

Which thoughts take away my peace?

In the previous blog I write about your life creed. When it comes to the beliefs you have about yourself that don’t make you happy, these beliefs are rooted in the most negative thought you have about yourself. It is the root of why you have adopted certain negative characteristics or personality, that keep you running in circles trying to find peace, love and prosperity. You can call it your “personal law.”

This law is based on the premise that your unconscious mind thinks it is always right. It always says “yes” to what you think and doesn’t analyze how the conscious mind does. This law can include ideas such as:

• People scare me.

• Men dominate me.

• I need others to give me what I need.

• I need security to survive.

• I have to fight to be happy.

• I am a sinner.

• I do not deserve.

• I’m not enough.

If you think you are not worth it, you will manifest situations and people in life that make you feel that you are not worth. If you think that you can’t, you will find yourself in multiple situations where you will feel that you can’t.

To change something in your life, you have to recognize what needs to be changed, want to change it and take the necessary steps to achieve it. That is why it is so important to do a frequent self-assessment to see where you are in life, what your beliefs and goals are, or where you want to go.

The following exercise is to learn how to find the most negative thought you have about yourself. I will give you the first part in this blog and the second in the next.

There are two ways you can do it, with another person, or by writing, if you don’t have someone to do it with.

• If you have someone, sit across from each other. Choose who is going to be A and who is going to be B. A begins by looking at B‘s eyes saying: the most negative thought that I have about myself is                   . B only answers: Thank you. A keeps repeating the same sentence, each time completing it with the first thing that comes to mind, until he has no more thoughts. B says thank you each time.

• Once the exercise is complete, close your eyes and try to feel with which of the negative thoughts you most identify.

• Then change places and do it the other way around, with B starting and A saying thank you.

 This exercise should be done with some regularity until you come to the thought that you really feel is the most negative.

• If you don’t have someone to do it with, or if you simply prefer to work alone, do the same thing but the thought is listed by writing it down on paper.

• Mentally repeat: the most negative thought I have about myself is: and you write what you think.

In both forms of the exercise it is important to know that if nothing comes to mind, you make it up. Usually, when you make something up, it is the unconscious speaking. Listen to it.

In the next blog, I will continue the next part of this exercise. But in the meantime, take this week to self-evaluate. Happy adventure of awakening.

What beliefs create your world?

Do you know that you have preconceived beliefs about yourself and life in general? You can call these your life creed. This creed is made up of the set of thoughts and ideas that you constantly repeat, which are mostly unconscious. Through your beliefs you interpret everything that happens to you in life. That is why the same event can be interpreted in a thousand ways, if there are a thousand people who experience it. The interesting thing is that once you have your creed, you think that’s how things should be.

I am going to give you an example of how the same experience is seen in a different way, with the story of three blind men who are standing in front of an elephant. One is on the trunk, another on one of the legs and the third on the side. They are told to describe what an elephant is. The three proceed to touch the part of the elephant facing them and then describe it like this:

• The one on the trunk says, the elephant is a long, thin and curved animal.

• The one on the leg says, no, the elephant is a short animal that looks like a column.

• The one on the side says, no, the elephant is a massive animal that looks like a wall.

The three begin to argue, trying to convince each other that their description is correct, without realizing that each was describing a piece of the elephant.  They each had a piece of reality.

How many times have you found yourself arguing, trying to prove that your way of seeing things is the correct one?

Once you open your mind and start to awaken, you can decide if your creed is bringing you happiness. If not, it is time to examine it and change whatever needs to be changed to achieve peace. That is achieved by making the decision to change and committing to doing whatever is needed.

Who is reacting, an adult or a child?

Sometimes we react in a certain way and then we wonder, where did that come from?

Have you heard of the inner child? When we suffered traumas as children, or our emotional needs were not nurtured, or it could be that we were not allowed to express anger and we repressed it, that injured part is called the inner child. In general, the adult’s reaction will coincide with the age when his emotional development as a child was not completed. Until we claim and heal this inner child, it will continue to contaminate our adult life, creating endless insecurities and problems. To heal your inner child the following things are important:

a) Rediscover and practice being yourself.

b) Identify your needs.

c) Practice getting your needs met with people who support you. Here it is important to practice asking.

d) Identify your injuries. Re-experience your pain with people who support you.

e) Identify and work with your essential problem areas. Some of these can be:

• control issues

• trust issues

• healing of feelings

• being overly responsible

• neglecting your needs

• all or nothing thinking or behavior

• high tolerance for inappropriate behavior

• low self esteem

• problems being real or authentic

• mourning your unmourned losses

These changes are not made from one day to the next. They require a lot of self-observation and patience and loving oneself. Little by little you will realize if it’s the adult acting or if it’s the child, and, in this way, you will discover your own being.

How does the mind work?

I’ve been writing about mind, thoughts etc. But, how does this work? Actually, there is only one mind, but in order to better understand the workings of the mind, I am going to refer to three minds, the conscious mind, the unconscious mind and the superconscious mind.

The conscious mind is:

• The rational mind.

• The part of the mind that analyzes.

• You think with the conscious mind.

• The conscious mind discriminates.

• Determines if you like something or not, if you choose it or not.

• It is the one who judges.

The unconscious mind is:

• The part that makes it possible for our physical functions to continue without our

conscious will.

• The part that stores the experiences we have had from the moment of conception.

• It’s like a computer’s hard drive, sorting information according to the way we first

experienced it.

• The unconscious mind does not discriminate.

• It is the part with which we create. Once you accept an idea, you will begin to express it.

• Has no sense of humor. If you have the belief that “I do not deserve to be happy,” the unconscious mind does not enter into an analysis of whether it is true or not, or whether it serves you or not, it will say “yes” and create situations in your life where you feel that you don’t deserve.

When you think how your thoughts are stored, imagine an iceberg. The conscious mind would be the tip of the iceberg that is out of the water. The unconscious mind, the largest part, would be the rest of the iceberg that cannot be seen because it is in the water.

The supra-conscious mind is that part of our mind that is connected to God, all that is, the Universe, as each one wants to call the Totality. It is the part of our mind united with Infinite Intelligence.

If you want to change your life you have to work with your unconscious mind.

All the thoughts that create each moment of your life are stored there.

I will teach you some techniques that can help you in another blog.

Do you want to see how your beliefs affect your life?

I have written about how your thoughts create your life circumstances. I’m going to put a situation invented by me, with a fictitious name, so you can learn to see how this works.

• Maria grew up in a dysfunctional home. Her parents did not give her the emotional recognition that she needed. However, it was given to her older brother. That made Maria very jealous and resentful, because she didn’t understand why it was not given to her. She concluded that it was because she was not important enough.

• Maria grew up and when she got married her husband didn’t give her enough attention. He preferred to be at work or with his friends. This made Maria very jealous and resentful. She felt that she was not important enough.

• Something similar happened to her at her work. Her boss didn’t appreciate her work and promotions were given to her coworker. Maria felt that her work was not valued enough. This caused her a lot of resentment and jealousy of her co-workers.

Can you see a pattern that repeats itself? This happens to all of us in some way. Your job is to look for situations that are repeated in your life and where they came from. What thoughts did you decide about yourself? To what conclusions about yourself did you come to? You have to take the time to study yourself in order to transform your erroneous conclusions. Thus you will create a life more attuned to what you want.

Tips on how to start healing your thoughts

You have unconscious patterns that come from childhood. Usually they are passed from generation to generation because we “copy” what we live.

By teaching you discipline through disapproval, which was what they learned from their parents, your parents taught you to question your worth, leading you to conclude that there was something wrong with you.

Your need for approval is based on the premise that your worth is measured by what others, especially those in authority, believe about you. Not what you think.

You spend your life looking for people to tell you how to act. In this way you open yourself to others manipulating you.

As an adult, you may tend to create situations that make your partner or friends disapprove of you. You will tend to make your partner or friends pay for what   your parents did to you. If your partner does not allow it, you could use your children.

Once you manage to realize that as an adult you are reacting as you did as a child, by working with yourself you will be able to react as an adult, to any situation that comes your way.

Here is an exercise so you can to start to see what things you have to work with. Write at least 10 of each.

I. List how you were disapproved of as a child.

II. List situations in your current life where you feel disapproved of.

III. List the ways you “punish” people you interpret as disapproving of you.

Once you start to become aware of your patterns, you can start to think differently, but not until you realize that your behavior comes from unconscious thoughts you have about yourself.

The universal or cosmic laws

Contrary to the laws of the world, which can change as the legislature changes, the 7 Universal or Cosmic Laws operate in your life all the time, whether you believe in them or not. They exist, whether you are aware of them or not, whether you have “discovered” them or not.

These laws rule the Cosmos and everything in it. This includes you and everything that surrounds you. The laws intertwine among each other, and they all work together.

Once you become familiar with these laws, you will understand why your life is the way it is. Since the world is a compendium of many people’s lives, it will also give you an understanding of why the world is the way it is.

When you don’t understand the Universal Laws, you live your life in an unconscious way, and you usually feel like a victim of circumstances. Understanding these Laws:

  • It will allow you to take control of your life.
  • It will help you change those areas of yourself that don’t make you happy, and expand those that do.
  • You will realize that the only way you can change the world is by changing yourself, becoming a better person, and in this way sending that energy to the cosmos.

I will be explaining some of the laws in the following blogs.