Awaken to the Love You Are

Welcome to Awaken to the Love You Are. If you want to heal your attitudes, way of thinking and your life in general, this is the place for you. Here you will find information that will help you do exactly that, plus an informative blog with different themes where you can put your comments and ask questions. I have created this page in two languages, English and Spanish. Just press the language you prefer. I hope to see you here frequently. Happy healing.

 

A Course in Miracles and the Holy Relationship

In the previous blog, I explained what a special relationship is. A special relationship becomes a holy relationship in what the Course calls the holy instant.

As Kenneth Wapnick explains in his Glossary-Index to A Course in Miracles, the holy instant is the interval of time in which we choose forgiveness instead of guilt..; it is an expression of our little willingness to live in the present…

As I mentioned in the blog of the special relationship, in this type of relationship, which is what we are used to living, as long as the other acts as we expect, we are happy. When it changes, we are unhappy and begin to blame them for our unhappiness.

When you learn to see things differently and understand the difference between being in the ego or the Holy Spirit, fear or love, you begin to see the relationship with other eyes and another purpose.

My thermometer to know whether or not I am in the ego is my inner peace. I learned to be very attentive to my feelings. As soon as I realize that I am not at peace, I stop. I admit that some thought of mine is taking peace away from me (I do not blame anyone). The next step I take is to hand over everything to the Holy Spirit, which is that part of me that knows it is connected to God.

When you are in a relationship, and you already know that in essence, we are all One, the other person is in your life to help you heal and raise your consciousness. Any situation that takes away your peace shows you the unconscious areas you have to heal.  In other words, each one is the mirror of the other’s unconscious.

In the holy relationship, you stop seeing the other person as someone who should fill your voids and insecurities. Both begin to see themselves as allies in their mutual paths of awakening.

Although situations will arise where one will draw out the other’s anger and unconscious fears, both recognize that this is the primary purpose of being together. They breathe deeply to return to peace, they hand it over to the Holy Spirit to help them see the situation from love and not from fear, and without a doubt, it will. Once forgiveness is given, which is ultimately to ourselves, since everything arises from our thoughts seen outside, they live another holy instant.

The holy relationship is the most glorious way to live.

What are special relationships according to A Course in Miracles?

The Course mentions two types of relationships, special relationships, and holy relationships. In the next blog, I will explain holy relationships.

For the Course, all relationships involving the ego are special relationships. There are two types of special relationships, special hate relationships, and special love relationships.

In special hate relationships, we look for someone or something to hate. In this way, we do not have to look at the hatred we have towards ourselves. An example of these relationships is seen in politics. Those on one side hate Trump, and those on the other side hate Biden. This type of special relationship is easier to identify, although not so easy to understand what part of us we hate and are projecting outside.

The special love relationship is more deceptive. It is more difficult to recognize because it appears to be something that it is not. Just like the special hate relationship, we are trying to hide our hatred of ourselves in the special love relationship. The difference is that in love, it is done in a more subtle way.

As I explained in the previous blog, we all feel that something is missing to a greater or lesser degree. That scarcity principle is beneath special relationships. We think that something is missing. Immediately, the ego-mind says, I know how you can solve this. Look outside yourself for someone to fill your hole.

When you find someone who has the qualities that meet your needs, you grab onto that special someone. You fall in love, and everything is wonderful as long as that person gives you what you need. And if you have qualities that fill his needs, he falls in love with you. From the ego’s point of view, it is like a marriage made in heaven.

What the ego calls love is actually dependence. I depend on you to meet my needs, and I will make sure that you rely on me to fulfill yours. As long as I know everything is great.

When that person begins to have other interests or makes new friends at work, or in some way is no longer acting as you wish and no longer fits your expectations, problems begin.

No matter what, you want it to be like before. To achieve this, you can use different measures, usually without expressing how you feel directly. Maybe you act cold; you manipulate by saying something like “you are no longer the same as before. You don’t love me anymore”, or something similar.

If you can make your partner feel guilty enough to go back to acting like before, everything is fine again. If not, the fights begin until one of the two decides that he is not happy, and the relationship ends.

At the same time, you meet another person who “meets your needs and expectations” and begins another special relationship. If you pay close attention, you will realize that everything you did not heal inside with the first partner is repeated in the next. That’s because what I call “hunger and need come together.” Your partner and vice versa will activate everything you have in the unconscious to heal. But as always, if it is a special relationship, you are in denial and see it outside.

As long as you feel like a victim, that is going to be a vicious cycle. To get out of this cycle, you must start seeing things differently. In the next blog, I will explain how.

A Course in Miracles and the Scarcity Principle

Since we thought that we had separated ourselves from God and created the ego, we always live looking for that something that completes us, without realizing that something, which is the only thing that would complete us, is God. According to the Course, this search comes from the scarcity principle, which is the belief that something is missing.

The something that you think you are lacking can be love, abundance, bliss, a sense of sufficiency, beauty, etc. When you feel that you are missing something, you think that nobody loves you, that there is something incomplete within you, that you are not enough, you feel alone.

The ego or wrong mind tells you that this is easily solved. What you have to do is look for it outside of yourself.

Some people look for it in food and overeat. Others drink and drink like a bottomless keg. Some people have to be buying the latest fashionable things even if they have their closet complete. What doesn’t occur to them is that they are doing that to fill a hole that they feel deep inside.

Take a good look at yourself with great honesty. What motivates you? What do you do to fill your life? How do you feel when you can’t? Do you take responsibility for your failures, or do you blame someone else?

In my case, it was the couple’s relationship. I had a feeling that I did not belong and that I was not enough. Unconsciously, I thought that having a partner would resolve this feeling. How wrong I was.

In the next blog, I will explain what special relationships are according to A Course in Miracles. You will see how when the Course talks about relationships, it doesn’t refer only to a couple’s relationship. Until next time.

The defense and attack cycle

Kenneth Wapnick, in his book A Talk Given on a Course in Miracles, mentions another cycle that emerges from the ego game. I am referring to the cycle of defense and attack. Imagine that you were very hurtful to someone. That made you feel guilty, but since you don’t want to accept it, you take it into your unconscious and convince yourself that you did it because of something terrible that person did. In other words, you blame him. Since you were hurtful, you think that person will attack you in some way.

Consequently, you become defensive and attack him in the way you speak to him. The person, then, feels attacked, and to defend himself, he attacks you. This creates the cycle of defense and attack.

This cycle is so in this world we live in, the world of the ego, from interpersonal relationships to relationships between countries. That is why there are so many wars and so much violence.

Unfortunately, as long as people think that “the other” did or will do something to them, this cycle of defense and attack will continue. Nobody does anything to you. Your reaction comes from your interpretation of what you see outside of yourself. That is why there can be as many interpretations of a situation as there are people observing it.

Everything arises from your mind, from your perceptions acquired from your childhood, most of which are hidden in your unconscious. For those who, like me, believe in reincarnation, you already came with those perceptions to heal them in order to raise your consciousness.

If you see something outside of you that bothers you, ask yourself: In what form does what I am seeing outside of me reflect something I don’t want to see about myself?

Ask your Holy Spirit for guidance to help you see them. Notice that in the perfect moment for you, when you are ready to see it differently, the answer will come to you.

Where does the ego’s thought system come from?

The ego’s thought system, which is the same as saying the wrong-mind, is the one that governs us in this life until we begin to wake up and realize that it only leads us to unhappiness.

It’s a very logical system, as logical as the thought system of the Holy Spirit, which I will comment on in another blog. However, both systems are mutually exclusive. Either we are using one or the other. They don’t mix.

As I mentioned in another blog, the Course says that at one point the Son of God (which is all of us) thought that he was separated from God. We can compare this thought of separation to original sin.

Do you remember when you were a kid doing something that you thought was terrible? What is the first thing you felt? I felt guilty and thought, now I’m going to be punished, and then I was afraid thinking about the possible punishment coming to me.

Well, imagine the fear the Son of God felt when he thought that he had separated from Him. Speaking in our language, he possibly thought, now God will take me to the depths of hell, but if He can’t find me, He can’t punish me.  

So he hid (or so he believed) in the physical world. Each time the son of God went deeper and deeper into physicality, until he reached a point when he thought he was far enough. However, the fear that God would find and punish him never left him. Thus, he changed his perception from a loving God to a vengeful God.

To protect ourselves from the feeling of such tremendous guilt, we invented a way of seeing things where we hide the guilt in the unconscious mind. Once there, we don’t remember it, and we begin to live as if it didn’t exist. That thought system is what the Course calls the ego thought system.

And what do we do when we follow that system? We deny and project. When we go to the ego for help (remember that the ego is a part of our mind), the ego tells us: “This is very easy, put it in your unconscious because you won’t remember that it’s there. But as that suppressed energy tries to come to the surface, when you see someone who reminds you of what you don’t want to accept within you, project it on that person and think that that person is the culprit and not you, and then, attack them for what they seemingly did”. This becomes a cycle of guilt and attack.

We have all done this. In the next blog, I will explain what we do after we blame the other. Meanwhile, you have time to think about all this.

A Course in Miracles – the One-Mind and the split-mind

Kenneth Wapnick, widely regarded as the foremost teacher of A Course in Miracles, gave a talk, which later became a book, entitled A Talk on a Course in Miracles. I recommend that anyone interested in understanding the Course read this book. I want to summarize here some of the things he said.

Wapnick reminds us that the Course is written in two levels. The first level shows the difference between what the One-Mind and the split-mind are.

• The One-Mind level is where we remain united to God even though we have forgotten it. At this level, the body and the world are illusions, products of our separate minds or ego. They represent separation.

• The second level or split-mind relates to the world in which we think we live. It shows the differences between wrong-minded and right-minded. At this level, we consider our bodies and the world to be real. We see attack, separation, sin, and guilt.

Wapnick also mentioned that the Course speaks of three different thought systems: One-Mind, wrong-mind, and Right-Mind.

The following are brief explanations of the three thought systems:

• The One-Mindset is our true reality; it is the world of heaven. It’s the level we’ve never gone from, but we think we have. It has nothing to do with this world. It is our recognition of our unity with the Creator and with all of Creation. In heaven, there is no time or space. This level is rarely mentioned on the Course.

• The split-mind is the ego’s thought system. This system believes in sin, guilt, and fear. When the Course speaks of sin, it refers to our belief that we are separated from God, leading to fear and guilt. Wapnick says that the guilt the Course refers to is “the sum total of all the negative feelings, beliefs and experiences we have had about ourselves,” which are primarily unconscious.

• The Course tells us that as soon as the ego was created, God gave us the Holy Spirit, who, for the Course, is the part of our mind that knows that it is always connected to God. It is as if our mind is divided in two. One part, the Holy Spirit, knows that we have never separated from God. The other one, the ego, thinks that we have.

  • Right-mindedness is the thought system of the Holy Spirit, which leads us to forgive our guilt. In this system, we decide to live exclusively in the state of love, towards ourselves and others. We do this through forgiveness. Forgiveness does not lead to attacks or judgments because we begin to see what we previously identified as attack or judgment simply as the wrong way for the other person to say, “I feel lonely, and I need love.” This leads us to feel compassion, instead of anger.

In the following blogs, I will delve into some of the mechanisms of the Course to achieve forgiveness and live the experience of love.

Holistic philosophy: the mind

In the first few blogs, I wrote about thoughts and how your thoughts create your life. If you are reading my blogs for the first time or are interested in doing more research, head over to them. You will find them between January 24 and March 19.

Has it ever occurred to you to think where the mind comes from? To understand esoteric things well, I invent stories that resonate with what we are living in this third dimension. Imagine the Creator who is Supreme Intelligence, Eternal Love, Perfection, wanting to experience himself. As He was Oneness, he couldn’t. At this moment, there was nothing physical, just conscious energy.

Then he thought, I can do this by lowering my vibrational frequency so that what is now One is divided, in appearance only, into many. I say in appearance because, in reality, everything is still linked to everything. Once the frequency dropped a little, what we call Spirit was created, still united to All that is, and without anything physical existing.

Spirit kept lowering the frequency, very slowly to get used to it, until a density began to be perceived very subtly. It went on like this for millions of years, until at a precise frequency, the soul, or vehicle of the Spirit was created.

Since it had dropped quite a bit in density, although still at a very high frequency, the soul appeared to be separated from the Creator. The soul also has all the attributes of the Creator because it is the vehicle of the Spirit and our true reality. All humanity is united by the soul. When we die, what dies is the body. The soul is eternal, as is the Creator.

Being in a lower dimension, the soul, now thinking that there were many souls because it saw them separated, was very frightened thinking it had separated itself from God. That fear of the soul emitted so much energy that it created the “Big Bang,” which created the physical Universe.

For duality to exist and for the soul to experience differences, it continued to lower its frequency enough to inhabit a physical body. Once the soul inhabited a body, its density was such that it forgot where it came from.

A Course in Miracles teaches that the ego-mind was created at the very moment we thought we were separated from God and others due to the intense fear felt by the soul.

The ego is the part of our mind that judges, projects, criticizes. When we think with the mind of the ego, we feel alone, scared, isolated. When we think or say “I,” we usually identify with the ego. It is what we think we are.

A Course in Miracles leads us to get rid of those mistaken thoughts that cause us unhappiness. In the following blogs, I will explain how it does it.

Holistic philosophy – The body Part 3

MOVE AND EXERCISE

Exercise is essential. Many people work sitting down all day. They come home, eat, and sit down, this time, to watch television. So little by little, the belly grows.

Exercise is vital for a healthy body. What are some of the benefits for your health?

• Improves muscle strength and increases endurance.

• Strengthens bones and muscles.

• Helps to have a better balance which can prevent falls.

• It helps control weight.

• Supplies oxygen and nutrients to tissues and helps the cardiovascular system work more efficiently. When your heart and lung health improve, you have more energy to do daily tasks.

• Improves mental health by relieving stress. The chemical substances that exercise produces in the body help improve mood.

• Helps you sleep better.

There are many ways to exercise. You can do sports, go to the gym, walk, and jog. Anyway, find what interests you the most and get started. At first, it’s more difficult. If you haven’t exercised in a long time, your muscles will ache, you will be tired, etc. Don’t use that as an excuse not to continue.

From my own experience, I’m sure that you will feel much better once you create the habit.

To create the habit, choose days and hours that are favorable for you. That way, there won’t be an excuse not to continue. Put it on your calendar and set alarms to remind you.

But the most important thing is to start. Once you achieve it, you will not regret it. I wish you success.

In the next blog, I will write about the mind.

Holistic Philosophy – Body part 2

What enters through your nose and your skin?

Our health depends on what enters our mind, mouth, nose, and skin. In previous blogs, I have written about the mouth. Today it’s up to the nose and skin.

When I was in my early forties, an oil tanker ran aground at sea, causing an oil spill near where I lived in Puerto Rico. It was something like the well-known Exxon Valdez but on a smaller scale.

I lived close, but not close enough to smell the horrible stench that oil had. However, I was close enough to breathe in the chemicals. As a result of breathing in the chemicals for several months, my immune system went haywire, and I began to react to most of the chemicals that reached my respiratory system or skin.

To function in this world, I had to stop coloring my hair, nails, using perfume, start cleaning my house with natural products, and not go where I knew there would be chemicals. Although I saw that as a misfortune since I was sick for several years, I see it as a blessing today. Over the years, I continue to react, but I can recover much faster than in those times. But I still have to avoid the harmful chemicals.

People who react like me are called canaries because many years ago, when there was no technology to detect harmful chemicals in the mines, they let a canary go inside the mine. If the canary died, the miners did not enter. If the canary did not die, they entered.

Why am I telling you this story? Because, although in a much slower way, those chemicals that hurt me immediately hurt other people over time. What happens is that since it is not instantaneous as it is with me, they do not see the relationship between their health conditions and the chemicals. But that’s how it is.

Not only do many of the people bathe in perfumes, dye their hair and paint their nails, but they also clean their houses with very toxic products, smoke, or are around people who smoke.

Nobody thinks they will be old anytime soon, but life passes extremely fast, and the body deteriorates. Thanks to the fact that I had to be so careful with toxins, I can proudly say that I am not suffering from anything. I don’t have to take medication for any condition because my body, free of toxins, can regulate everything well.

Especially now with the pandemic, if you want a strong immune system that fights any virus or bacteria, you have to put your body in optimal conditions. To achieve this, if you don’t want to totally eliminate all chemicals toxic to your health, you must reduce them considerably. Today there are many natural products that do the same job. Start reading the labels of the products you buy.

Take care of your body from toxins. No one is going to do it for you.

Holistic philosophy – the Body Part I

What goes into your mouth?

In a previous blog, I mentioned the relationship between health and thoughts. Today I am going to discuss the importance of a good diet for a good and healthy body.

Many years ago, people lived from family farming. We ate what small farmers grew. These foods were nutritious and met all the body’s needs of vitamins, minerals, etc.

Unfortunately, that went down in history. Today large agricultural companies dominate the food market. To have bigger and faster harvests, they turned to chemicals and pesticides, which many people automatically put into the body. These foods take away hunger, but they do not think about the damage these chemicals and lack of nutrients are doing to them.

The conditions in which the animals that give us meat, eggs, etc., live are disastrous. Some can barely move. The antibiotics and other medications that are given to them to produce more and more are many. All these chemicals and the negative energy from suffering remain in the flesh and pass into the body of the person who consumes it. To that, we can add the terror and despair they feel when they are killed.

Sodas and other soft drinks full of sugar and other chemicals were introduced (diet sodas are included) and bags of chips etc., full of fats and chemicals. These chemicals create a kind of addiction where every time we want to drink or eat more.

This type of diet creates very dense energy in the human body. Apart from that, obesity has been on the rise more and more. That brings other complications to health.

If you want to improve your health, you need to watch what goes into your mouth. Start, little by little, to eat healthier. The perfect thing would be to eat only organic foods that do not have the chemicals I mentioned. If you like to plant, grow your vegetables and fruits organically.

Eat less meat. If you eat every day now, start by eliminating one day. As you get used to it, you eliminate another one, and little by little, you change your meat diet.

Try to reduce, until you can eliminate them, the sodas and chips and other harmful things, everything little by little. The body has to get used to the new way of eating.

Keep a journal of what you eat. Put the date and how you felt during that day. The journal will help you realize if something you are eating is causing you symptoms, such as sleepy, tired, full of gas, you can’t string ideas together or forget things. If you find that something does not agree with you, eliminate it.

Finally, the purity of the water we drink. The purer, the better it is. Now a days, governments treat water to make it drinkable. Although it is much better than if they did not treat it, it still has many chemicals and harmful substances. The best thing is a filter in the house that purifies it completely.

Everyone is responsible for their health. To achieve any change, commitment and dedication are necessary. I invite you to try it.