It is interesting to live with other people. If we are alert, we learn many things about ourselves. As I have mentioned in other blogs, we are always a mirror of each other.
When I was a child, my father would lie down reading, and any noise bothered him. Like children, my siblings and I played and made noises with our laughter and screams. My mother would come running and tell us to be quiet because we were bothering my father. After hearing that statement so many times, you can imagine that one of the thoughts that stayed in my mind is that I bother people.
In our walk through life, once we understand that what we see outside of us is, actually, a projection of our thoughts unto another person, the interactions become very interesting. We stop blaming others and start looking for the thought we are projecting. It’s like a detective game.
With that in mind, I’ll tell you about my latest experience. Carla, my daughter-in-law, works from home. She spends all day in the office. On many occasions, I have offered to help her with something. For example, putting her clothes in the washing machine or washing her dishes. She always answered me, no, thanks. I can do it later.
After listening to that for a long time, I decided to talk to her, and the conversation was most interesting. I said, Carla, why is it that that you never allow me to help you? Don’t you like other people touching your things? No, she answers me. It is that I think that I bother people, she answered me.
Here it is, I said to myself. My thought that I bother people, which I believed I had already healed, is reflected here. That showed me that there are still some lingering thoughts still rooted within me that I need to heal. If we can see our exchanges in this way, we see where we are in our process of fully awakening in consciousness.
But it did not stop there. After thinking for a few minutes about what Carla told me, I asked her if she did not feel happy when she helped someone, and she said that she did. Then I told her, well, you are depriving me of feeling happy when I do something for you.
To help each other in raising our consciousness, we agreed that if I offered to help her with something and she refused, I would tell her as a reminder: “You are depriving me.”
I invite you to see the exchanges in life in this way. It is much more exciting and less painful.