A Course in Miracles (the Course) teaches that the only way to change your perceptions is through forgiveness. If you understood the explanation of projection from the previous blog, you already know that what you see outside that bothers you, is actually your own projection. Seeing it outside makes you angry. Therefore, when you forgive what you see in another, you are actually forgiving yourself for having that thought.

• The forgiveness the Course talks about is not the forgiveness we know where you see yourself as the saint and the other as the evil one. The Course says that the only thing that exists is love. That is our Reality. Everything that is not love is fear and fear is an illusion, it is not real.

• Continuing with the Course, to forgive is to realize that if your true essence is love and what is not love is not real, nothing really happened. That is, there is nothing to forgive.

• It is seeing God in the other, seeing the innocence that we all are.

• Realizing that when you or the other one are not acting from love, you are in fear and therefore the “wrong” act that you committed is nothing more than a crying out for love, to remind you who you really are.

• When someone does something that hurts you, instead of seeing them as guilty, you can choose to change your perception and see in that person someone who is hurt by circumstances from their past that have not yet healed. If you choose to change your perception, you will realize that you are seeing your wounds in the other and thus you will be able to forgive them more easily.

• You can always choose to think differently. Your reaction will depend on that.

Relationships that you have not completed are part of you, it does not matter if the person is with you or not. All the resentments and anger that come with a battered relationship are carried inside, like baggage, wherever you go. In most cases, we throw that baggage on those who least deserve it. That is why it is so important to complete all of our relationships.

One of the most powerful ways to complete a relationship is through a letter. This can be done even if the person has died. There is always communication on an energetic level.

The following exercise will help you to let go of the resentments that you may carry inside from past events:

• Start a letter to the person with whom you had an unfinished relationship. You are going to start the letter by saying “So and so, something I always wanted to tell you was … Here you are going to tell him everything you would have said if you had dared or had been allowed. For example,” Daddy, something I always wanted to tell you is that I needed you to spend more time with me. “

• Then you are going to say “The consequence of you being like that is … (Here you put the way in which your life was affected by that.) An example would be “The fact that you didn’t spend time with me brought as a consequence that I felt that I was not important. Therefore, I have always brought into my life people who have not valued me.

• In the next step you thank him for the lesson that this brought to your life, such as, “On the other hand I have to thank you because that feeling of not being worthy has made me work with my self-esteem and today my life and my relationships are better thanks to that”.

• You do those steps with everything you wanted to say and never said.

• This exercise will help you to say what you need to say, to realize how it affected you, and also to see that each experience brings learning.

• This letter does not need to be sent. Just writing it is enough.

You can write to as many people as you want. Forgiveness is an internal attitude that leads us to inner peace. You don’t need to tell anyone. Nor is it necessary to continue with the person we forgive, or to continue relating to that person. We merely see it in light and let it go.

The mirror or projection

According to A Course in Miracles, the fundamental law of the mind is that projection gives rise to perception. “The world you see is what you gave it, nothing more than that… It is the witness to your state of mind, the outside picture of an inward condition. As a man thinketh, so does he perceive. Therefore, seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world. Perception is a result, and not a cause.” (

It is very difficult to recognize what you have in your unconscious. It is easier to see other people’s fault and not your own.  You can gradually recognize what you have to modify:

  • If you recognize that what you see outside of yourself is a projection of what’s inside;
  • If you are very aware of what you attract into your life;
  • And you see those things as a mirror of your interior.

Imagine the following:

  • Your mind is a projector.
  • Your thoughts are the movie, and;
  • Your life and its circumstances are what you see on the screen.
  • You are the writer and producer of your life.
  • You choose the actors who are going to act out your thoughts.
  • Then you forget and get angry with them because they are perfectly acting the role you gave them.

Instead of fighting with the film, what you have to do is change it. And understanding this, your awakening begins.  In the next blog I will give you an exercise that will help you to achieve it.

How do I use affirmations?

We manifest our life based on our beliefs. Once we have a belief engraved in our mind, in order to change the belief it is necessary to replace it with another. If not, soon we will be thinking and doing the same.

  1. To succeed in replacing one belief with another, use affirmations, which are ordered statements of Truth. Affirmations are a tool to help you change negative thought patterns.
  2. We are always affirming, whether in a positive or negative way. When we punish ourselves for failing and call ourselves stupid, idiotic, etc., we are sending an order to the unconscious, which will then create situations in which we feel stupid, idiotic, etc.
  3. Through the process of affirmations you will do this in a conscious way and with positive thoughts. Every time you catch yourself thinking negatively about yourself change it to a positive with an affirmation.

Here is a summary of the main characteristics of the affirmations:

• Affirmations are statements of truth.

• They can be done in a variety of ways, written, verbal or recorded.

• They are done in the present tense, as if it has already been achieved.

• You use your name.

• You use the first three persons of a conjugation, that is, I, you and he or she. You may have your negative thoughts because you came to that conclusion, and decided “I am….” Someone may have told you “you are…,” or, you may have heard someone say “she is….”

• Divide a piece of paper in two, on the left side you write the affirmation and on the right side you write any thoughts in opposition to the affirmation that come to mind.

• Do it daily, until no opposing thoughts arise, for at least 21 days.

Some positive statements:

• I, (your name), have perfect health.

• I, (your name), have the ability to restore health to every cell in my body.

• I, (your name), am a wonderful person who deserves love.

• I, (your name), have power over every aspect of my life.

• I, (your name), am open to receive all the abundance of the Universe.

• I, (your name), create the perfect life for me.

• Perfect relationships show up in my life constantly.

• I, (your name), love and appreciate myself constantly.

• I, (your name), open myself to receive happiness, prosperity, health and love.

• The more I love myself, the more I love others and the more love I receive.

Use the ones that vibrate with you the most. Or make your own. You will see how little by little your life begins to change.

Now that I know my most negative thought, what do I do?

In the previous blog you learned about your Personal Law and I taught you the first part of an exercise to find out what it is.

The second part of this exercise, once you have the most negative thought, is to identify how that thought has been repeating itself in your life.

How have you attracted situations that make you feel exactly how you think of yourself?

This exercise will help you identify the internal areas that you have to work on to achieve happiness.

Take a piece of paper and divide it into four columns.

• In the first, make a list of those people.

• In the second write the behavior that bothers you.

• In the third write the emotion that is activated in you.

• In the last column write what person or situation in your childhood made you feel this way.

People that affect meBehavior of the personEmotion that is activatedSimilar person or situation in my childhood  

Your thoughts about yourself affect all your relationships. If that is what you unconsciously think of yourself, how can others love you? How can you be successful in your life and your relationships? Once you discover your “personal law” it is very important to change it to achieve your “eternal law.” If, for example, you discover that your “personal law” is “no one loves me”, change it to a positive affirmation like “everyone loves me.” Repeat the positive affirmation every time you start to feel your lie or personal law. This way your will, little by little, change one thought for another. In the next blog I will explain about affirmations.

Which thoughts take away my peace?

In the previous blog I write about your life creed. When it comes to the beliefs you have about yourself that don’t make you happy, these beliefs are rooted in the most negative thought you have about yourself. It is the root of why you have adopted certain negative characteristics or personality, that keep you running in circles trying to find peace, love and prosperity. You can call it your “personal law.”

This law is based on the premise that your unconscious mind thinks it is always right. It always says “yes” to what you think and doesn’t analyze how the conscious mind does. This law can include ideas such as:

• People scare me.

• Men dominate me.

• I need others to give me what I need.

• I need security to survive.

• I have to fight to be happy.

• I am a sinner.

• I do not deserve.

• I’m not enough.

If you think you are not worth it, you will manifest situations and people in life that make you feel that you are not worth. If you think that you can’t, you will find yourself in multiple situations where you will feel that you can’t.

To change something in your life, you have to recognize what needs to be changed, want to change it and take the necessary steps to achieve it. That is why it is so important to do a frequent self-assessment to see where you are in life, what your beliefs and goals are, or where you want to go.

The following exercise is to learn how to find the most negative thought you have about yourself. I will give you the first part in this blog and the second in the next.

There are two ways you can do it, with another person, or by writing, if you don’t have someone to do it with.

• If you have someone, sit across from each other. Choose who is going to be A and who is going to be B. A begins by looking at B‘s eyes saying: the most negative thought that I have about myself is                   . B only answers: Thank you. A keeps repeating the same sentence, each time completing it with the first thing that comes to mind, until he has no more thoughts. B says thank you each time.

• Once the exercise is complete, close your eyes and try to feel with which of the negative thoughts you most identify.

• Then change places and do it the other way around, with B starting and A saying thank you.

 This exercise should be done with some regularity until you come to the thought that you really feel is the most negative.

• If you don’t have someone to do it with, or if you simply prefer to work alone, do the same thing but the thought is listed by writing it down on paper.

• Mentally repeat: the most negative thought I have about myself is: and you write what you think.

In both forms of the exercise it is important to know that if nothing comes to mind, you make it up. Usually, when you make something up, it is the unconscious speaking. Listen to it.

In the next blog, I will continue the next part of this exercise. But in the meantime, take this week to self-evaluate. Happy adventure of awakening.

What beliefs create your world?

Do you know that you have preconceived beliefs about yourself and life in general? You can call these your life creed. This creed is made up of the set of thoughts and ideas that you constantly repeat, which are mostly unconscious. Through your beliefs you interpret everything that happens to you in life. That is why the same event can be interpreted in a thousand ways, if there are a thousand people who experience it. The interesting thing is that once you have your creed, you think that’s how things should be.

I am going to give you an example of how the same experience is seen in a different way, with the story of three blind men who are standing in front of an elephant. One is on the trunk, another on one of the legs and the third on the side. They are told to describe what an elephant is. The three proceed to touch the part of the elephant facing them and then describe it like this:

• The one on the trunk says, the elephant is a long, thin and curved animal.

• The one on the leg says, no, the elephant is a short animal that looks like a column.

• The one on the side says, no, the elephant is a massive animal that looks like a wall.

The three begin to argue, trying to convince each other that their description is correct, without realizing that each was describing a piece of the elephant.  They each had a piece of reality.

How many times have you found yourself arguing, trying to prove that your way of seeing things is the correct one?

Once you open your mind and start to awaken, you can decide if your creed is bringing you happiness. If not, it is time to examine it and change whatever needs to be changed to achieve peace. That is achieved by making the decision to change and committing to doing whatever is needed.

Who is reacting, an adult or a child?

Sometimes we react in a certain way and then we wonder, where did that come from?

Have you heard of the inner child? When we suffered traumas as children, or our emotional needs were not nurtured, or it could be that we were not allowed to express anger and we repressed it, that injured part is called the inner child. In general, the adult’s reaction will coincide with the age when his emotional development as a child was not completed. Until we claim and heal this inner child, it will continue to contaminate our adult life, creating endless insecurities and problems. To heal your inner child the following things are important:

a) Rediscover and practice being yourself.

b) Identify your needs.

c) Practice getting your needs met with people who support you. Here it is important to practice asking.

d) Identify your injuries. Re-experience your pain with people who support you.

e) Identify and work with your essential problem areas. Some of these can be:

• control issues

• trust issues

• healing of feelings

• being overly responsible

• neglecting your needs

• all or nothing thinking or behavior

• high tolerance for inappropriate behavior

• low self esteem

• problems being real or authentic

• mourning your unmourned losses

These changes are not made from one day to the next. They require a lot of self-observation and patience and loving oneself. Little by little you will realize if it’s the adult acting or if it’s the child, and, in this way, you will discover your own being.

How does the mind work?

I’ve been writing about mind, thoughts etc. But, how does this work? Actually, there is only one mind, but in order to better understand the workings of the mind, I am going to refer to three minds, the conscious mind, the unconscious mind and the superconscious mind.

The conscious mind is:

• The rational mind.

• The part of the mind that analyzes.

• You think with the conscious mind.

• The conscious mind discriminates.

• Determines if you like something or not, if you choose it or not.

• It is the one who judges.

The unconscious mind is:

• The part that makes it possible for our physical functions to continue without our

conscious will.

• The part that stores the experiences we have had from the moment of conception.

• It’s like a computer’s hard drive, sorting information according to the way we first

experienced it.

• The unconscious mind does not discriminate.

• It is the part with which we create. Once you accept an idea, you will begin to express it.

• Has no sense of humor. If you have the belief that “I do not deserve to be happy,” the unconscious mind does not enter into an analysis of whether it is true or not, or whether it serves you or not, it will say “yes” and create situations in your life where you feel that you don’t deserve.

When you think how your thoughts are stored, imagine an iceberg. The conscious mind would be the tip of the iceberg that is out of the water. The unconscious mind, the largest part, would be the rest of the iceberg that cannot be seen because it is in the water.

The supra-conscious mind is that part of our mind that is connected to God, all that is, the Universe, as each one wants to call the Totality. It is the part of our mind united with Infinite Intelligence.

If you want to change your life you have to work with your unconscious mind.

All the thoughts that create each moment of your life are stored there.

I will teach you some techniques that can help you in another blog.

Do you want to see how your beliefs affect your life?

I have written about how your thoughts create your life circumstances. I’m going to put a situation invented by me, with a fictitious name, so you can learn to see how this works.

• Maria grew up in a dysfunctional home. Her parents did not give her the emotional recognition that she needed. However, it was given to her older brother. That made Maria very jealous and resentful, because she didn’t understand why it was not given to her. She concluded that it was because she was not important enough.

• Maria grew up and when she got married her husband didn’t give her enough attention. He preferred to be at work or with his friends. This made Maria very jealous and resentful. She felt that she was not important enough.

• Something similar happened to her at her work. Her boss didn’t appreciate her work and promotions were given to her coworker. Maria felt that her work was not valued enough. This caused her a lot of resentment and jealousy of her co-workers.

Can you see a pattern that repeats itself? This happens to all of us in some way. Your job is to look for situations that are repeated in your life and where they came from. What thoughts did you decide about yourself? To what conclusions about yourself did you come to? You have to take the time to study yourself in order to transform your erroneous conclusions. Thus you will create a life more attuned to what you want.

Tips on how to start healing your thoughts

You have unconscious patterns that come from childhood. Usually they are passed from generation to generation because we “copy” what we live.

By teaching you discipline through disapproval, which was what they learned from their parents, your parents taught you to question your worth, leading you to conclude that there was something wrong with you.

Your need for approval is based on the premise that your worth is measured by what others, especially those in authority, believe about you. Not what you think.

You spend your life looking for people to tell you how to act. In this way you open yourself to others manipulating you.

As an adult, you may tend to create situations that make your partner or friends disapprove of you. You will tend to make your partner or friends pay for what   your parents did to you. If your partner does not allow it, you could use your children.

Once you manage to realize that as an adult you are reacting as you did as a child, by working with yourself you will be able to react as an adult, to any situation that comes your way.

Here is an exercise so you can to start to see what things you have to work with. Write at least 10 of each.

I. List how you were disapproved of as a child.

II. List situations in your current life where you feel disapproved of.

III. List the ways you “punish” people you interpret as disapproving of you.

Once you start to become aware of your patterns, you can start to think differently, but not until you realize that your behavior comes from unconscious thoughts you have about yourself.