Reiki and childbirth- a beautiful experience

Who would like to give birth without feeling horrible pain? I would have loved it, but I didn’t know that Reiki existed when I had my children.

When I went to Georgetown Law University to get a master’s degree, I was outside of Puerto Rico for a while. When I returned, I didn’t know that my friend Carmen was pregnant.

Since things happen when they have to, I locked my apartment door with the keys inside. My friend, Margarita, who had keys, was not arriving until late at night. Since I had the car keys in my pocket, I visited my sister’s mother-in-law, who lived near me. To my surprise, her immediate neighbor and niece, Carmen, was giving birth at her home with midwives.

When Carmen saw my car through the window, she asked me to come to see her. While I was standing next to her, an inner voice told me to put my hands on her belly. I asked Carmen if she knew what Reiki was, and she said no, but that she trusted me to do whatever I wanted.

I had never given Reiki in childbirth before but decided to follow my intuition. Following my inner voice, I put my hands on her lower belly. About five minutes later, she told me, “Hey Yve, I no longer feel pain where your hands are, just the muscles contracting.” I felt panic. I thought that I had paralyzed the labor and didn’t know how to activate it again. I commented on it to the midwives, who told me that nobody would stop the delivery to continue with Reiki.

I went back to Carmen and asked her where it hurt. She told me it was above where I had removed the previous pain, so I put my hands there.

To make a long story short, I spent the entire labor giving her Reiki, and she was pain-free and relaxed. She just felt the muscles contracting. Finally, her baby was born, and it was the most beautiful experience I have ever had giving Reiki. Carmen was so impressed that when I started as a Reiki teacher, she was my second student.

And How Did I Reach the Second Level?

(This is a continuation of the previous blog.)

And how did I reach the second level of Reiki?

Some years after my Reiki I initiation passed. I was going to New York with friends to take some courses. When I went to say goodbye to my parents, I noticed that my dad had what looked like a golf ball above his elbow. I asked, and my mom told me that the doctor had treated everything and would operate on him next week. I told them that I did something called Reiki and I could put my hands on him to see if I could help him. My dad thought I was crazy, but my mom insisted that he let me put them on for five minutes. I put my hands on “the ball” for five minutes, said goodbye, and left for New York.

When I got to the hotel, there was a message to call my mom. I was scared because I thought something terrible had happened. When I spoke to her, she told me, “Everything is fine; I wanted to let you know that the ball disappeared from your dad’s arm. They no longer have to operate it.

There is a purpose for everything in life. Treatments don’t always work so quickly. It all depends on how long the condition has existed, the lessons the person needs to learn, etc. The important thing is that you don’t have to believe in Reiki. You have to want to heal as Reiki does not violate free will.

The purpose for me was to help me believe what I couldn’t see with my eyes. Since that second experience, I have no doubt that this miraculous energy exists, and that in some way that I don’t understand, the energy enters my head and goes out of my hands to help me and others.

When I returned from New York, my dad told me that he wanted to pay for my second level of Reiki. I was so happy. I immediately started to look for a Reiki Master, when I found out that the Reiki Master that attuned me to Reiki I was back in Puerto Rico. I called her, and the rest is history.

Reiki, universal intelligent energy

When I think of something gently powerful, the first thing that comes to mind is Reiki. And you might think, so what is that? The word Reiki comes from two Kanjis or characters that are used in Japanese writing to express concepts. In this case, Rei means sacred, spirit, soul, divine, and Ki means energy. I call it God’s energy, which dwells in each one of us and everywhere.

Reiki is a thousand-year-old therapy by laying on of hands that balance the physical, emotional, and mental bodies. Reiki is not learned by reading a book. The ability to give Reiki is passed from a Reiki Master to the person who is being initiated. This is done in an attunement process or initiation. In the initiation, the channels in our hands are opened to allow the Reiki energy to flow through them.

Like everything related to Reiki, the initiation is a gentle and sacred process. Once you are initiated to Reiki, it is for life. Even if you haven’t used it in years, the energy is activated with sheer intention. It enters through the crown chakra and leaves through the hands, which feel warm once the Reiki begins to flow.

Contrary to other therapies by laying on of hands, when you do Reiki you are not using your own energy. You are a channel, like a hose is when water begins to flow. Therefore, your energy is not diminished, and you don’t attract the energies of the other person to you.

Reiki has three basic levels. The first level is by laying on of hands in certain positions of the body. You can do it to yourself or someone else.

The second level is Reiki at a distance. Here three symbols or Japanese kanjis are learned that serve various purposes, including sending Reiki from a distance, no matter where the person is.

The third level is the level of mastery that some teachers divide in two. Here the students are attuned to other symbols that allow th, in turn, to attune people who want to learn this ancient technique.

My experience with Reiki started quite early at the beginning of my spiritual quest. At that time, I was so hungry for knowledge that I would go wherever there was a class on any topic. So I took the first level of Reiki out of curiosity.

It wasn’t until months later when I was going through a difficult time that I decided to use Reiki to calm my emotions. As a lawyer, at that time I needed evidence to believe things. It’s as if my Reiki guides said, you need proof, well here it goes. About 15 minutes after putting my hands on my body in the Reiki positions, I began to feel a powerful energy that went in a circle from head to toe and rose from to toe to head. I have not felt energy this strong before nor after, but that convinced me that something was happening. From then on, I began to give myself Reiki treatments.

In the following blogs, I will continue to tell you about my experience and how I was initiated in the other levels until I reached the master’s level.

You are depriving me…

It is interesting to live with other people. If we are alert, we learn many things about ourselves. As I have mentioned in other blogs, we are always a mirror of each other.

When I was a child, my father would lie down reading, and any noise bothered him. Like children, my siblings and I played and made noises with our laughter and screams. My mother would come running and tell us to be quiet because we were bothering my father. After hearing that statement so many times, you can imagine that one of the thoughts that stayed in my mind is that I bother people.

In our walk through life, once we understand that what we see outside of us is, actually, a projection of our thoughts unto another person, the interactions become very interesting. We stop blaming others and start looking for the thought we are projecting. It’s like a detective game.

With that in mind, I’ll tell you about my latest experience. Carla, my daughter-in-law, works from home. She spends all day in the office. On many occasions, I have offered to help her with something. For example, putting her clothes in the washing machine or washing her dishes. She always answered me, no, thanks. I can do it later.

After listening to that for a long time, I decided to talk to her, and the conversation was most interesting. I said, Carla, why is it that that you never allow me to help you? Don’t you like other people touching your things? No, she answers me. It is that I think that I bother people, she answered me.

Here it is, I said to myself. My thought that I bother people, which I believed I had already healed, is reflected here. That showed me that there are still some lingering thoughts still rooted within me that I need to heal. If we can see our exchanges in this way, we see where we are in our process of fully awakening in consciousness.

But it did not stop there. After thinking for a few minutes about what Carla told me, I asked her if she did not feel happy when she helped someone, and she said that she did. Then I told her, well, you are depriving me of feeling happy when I do something for you.

To help each other in raising our consciousness, we agreed that if I offered to help her with something and she refused, I would tell her as a reminder: “You are depriving me.”

I invite you to see the exchanges in life in this way. It is much more exciting and less painful.

Trust the Universe

It is interesting to see how life brings us what we need at the precise moment. After living in Florida for 14 years, alone and happy since I adjusted to the fact that my husband had passed away, my youngest son, Pedro, and his wife, Carla, suggested that I sell my house, they would sell their apartment. Then, we would buy something appropriate so that they, my granddaughter, and I could live together. At first, I was shocked. How was I going to lose what I identified as my independence? One day I thought I would and another I changed my mind and would decide to stay in my house.

Pedro and Carla lived in Florida five minutes from my house when this happened, and the oldest, Juan C., had lived in Southern California for about 20 years. Without me having decided yet, Pedro got a job in Southern California, and they were all moving there.

I immediately decided to go with them, but I set some conditions of how the house needed a specific distribution to feel that I had my area separate from theirs.

For several months we were looking for a house to rent and there were always about ten people before us. Since Pedro had to be at his work, we decided to set off with the moving truck and our cars on the 5-day adventure driving across the United States.

We decided that when we got to California, we would stay in an Airbnb until we got a house, and at that point, it would be the first house we found. We just wanted a roof and rooms to sleep in.

A week before we started our adventure, a real estate broker called us about a house we had applied for, but someone had already rented. She told us that the contract with the previous person had fallen through and that the house was ours if we wanted it.

We immediately said yes without seeing it. When we arrived and saw the house, the house was exactly what we needed and that Carla and I had been visualizing. The first thing I thought when I saw it was, “why do you doubt if you know that the things you need are always given to you at the perfect time”?

Now we are together, but each has its space. My son’s family is on the second floor with three bedrooms and a loft, and I with my “suite” on the first.

If we could trust 100% in something superior to ourselves, let’s call it God, Supreme Intelligence, whatever, constantly giving us what we need, we would have a lot less stress in our lives. As our thoughts are our molds, in this case, it was the distribution of the house that Carla and I wanted, it is essential to be aware of what message we are sending to the Universe. The Universe always says yes. It does not analyze to see if it suits us or not. That is up to us.

Health before anything

The secret to a healthy body is a healthy mind, free from vibrations of fear, stress, repressed and unconscious negative thoughts, negative emotions, such as anger, resentment, judgments, etc. 

To free yourself from all that and have good health, you must raise your vibrational level. You achieve this by getting in touch with the most subtle energy that exists, the energy of love. This energy begins cleaning these blocked negative energies, which, if not transmuted, manifest in the physical body in the form of diseases.

Behind every illness, there is a thought and a repressed emotion. The thought is mostly unconscious and the emotion sometimes terrifies us. But if you only deal with the physical manifestation and not its cause, then it will manifest again in the future. That is why it is so essential to get in touch with those thoughts and emotions.

Different types of emotions have different vibrational levels. As I have explained in previous blogs, you attract into your life by the law of attraction, what you are, how you vibrate. If you have negative energies suppressed, you will attract diseases of similar energy. What you have to do is raise your vibration.

Therefore, instead of hating or resenting the condition, send it love. Start by accepting it and learning the lesson you have from it. Once you achieve this, by changing the energy, the condition changes.

If you are not healthy, it is because, at some level, you derive a benefit from it. If you want to have good health, you must do a profound analysis of the benefit you derive. This analysis can be:

• If you learned from a young age to receive love and attention when you were sick;

• If it is the way you allow yourself to rest if you lead an overly hectic life;

• If it is a way to control others.

• Anyway, there can be thousands of reasons why you want to be unconsciously ill.

If you want to be healthy, find the benefit to understand that illness is not necessary. That there are other healthy ways to achieve the same thing.

Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., in her book Minding the Body, Mending the Mind, recommends several ideas necessary to achieve prosperity in health:

1. You cannot control the external circumstances of your life, but you can control your reactions to them.

2. Optimal health is the product of both physical and mental factors. Therefore, exercise your body, eat mindfully, and meditate daily.

3. Think of yourself as healthy.

4. Things change. Change is the only constant in life.

5. Your beliefs are incredibly powerful.

6. The only way to escape stress, fear, and doubt is to confront them directly and see them for what they are.

7. Emotions fall into two broad categories, fear, and love.

8. Do you prefer to be right, or do you prefer to experience peace?

9. Accept yourself as you are.

10. Practice forgiveness.

11. Be open to the teachings of life.

12. Be patient.

Do you know how to give and receive?

I recently mentioned in another blog that giving and receiving are the same. Since a relationship is a perfect laboratory for healing, I will examine one way this principle manifests itself.

At all times, you are giving and receiving, even if you don’t realize it. Everything is energy, and you are in a constant exchange of energy with other people.

You are constantly giving and receiving through thought. Creating awareness of these is your responsibility. In this way, you will only be giving positive and uplifting thoughts.

It is essential to establish a balance between giving and receiving in a relationship, be it a couple, friendship, family, etc. To establish this balance, it is fundamental to feel that you are worthy of receiving.

As long as you are open to receive and willing to give, there will be a balance in this energetic exchange. It is when you close yourself to receiving or are unable to give that you create an imbalance.

This imbalance often causes resentment in those who give all the time without feeling they are receiving or those who receive without feeling they are giving.

In the special relationships that A Course in Miracles mentions, where we unconsciously seek a relationship to fill some void, the saying that opposites attract has its truth. Often, one who doesn’t know how to give will attract someone who needs to learn to receive and vice versa.

I have previously said that what we see outside is a mirror of what we have inside. I recommend that you stop the blaming game and start looking inside. If the other person complains you don’t give them what they need or don’t know how to receive, stop and listen. Look for your thoughts that are not allowing you to give or to receive. If you want to raise your consciousness, see the other person as your teacher and be grateful that they are there to teach you what you need to learn.

As giving and receiving is the same, start giving what you want to receive, and you will see how everything changes. As energy returns multiplied to the place of origin, you will not only notice the happiness of giving, but to the extent that you give, you will receive.

You receive love by giving it. But remember that true giving is unconditional and expects nothing in return.

Are you brave or fearful?

Changing your mistaken thoughts to thoughts of love is for brave people. Once you decide to do it, the only way that you can transform them is when they come out of your unconscious so that you can look at them and accept that they are your thoughts.

This decision sometimes brings a lot of emotional pain. When you decide that you want to look at them head-on and heal whatever they mean to you, your Holy Spirit or Higher Self will attract circumstances into your life that force you to look at them and change them. Therefore, if you have decided to grow in awareness, the road can be full of ups and downs when life brings you opportunities to grow. Don’t be scared. They are just thoughts and emotions with which you have been carrying from a very young age.

These are the steps that I use when I am experiencing a time of great pain or turmoil:

1. First of all, I accept responsibility. I don’t blame whatever is outside of me but rather acknowledge that some thought of mine drew it to me so that I can heal it. Sometimes I know what thought is, sometimes I don’t. But I know that it is always my thought and not what someone said or did outside of me. This step takes me out of the victim role where I think someone did something to me.

2. I turn to the Holy Spirit (HS) in me. I speak to that part of me as if it were a friend. I say something like this: HS, I am feeling very lonely. (Here, I recognize how I feel). I know that comes from my thought that I don’t belong, but I don’t know how to change it. (Here, I assume responsibility). I hand over my thought to you so that you can help me see it differently, and I can forgive myself for having thought like that. (I deliver it to a higher level)

I don’t know if it was Einstein, but some wise man said that we can’t solve a problem on the same level it was created. You have to go to a higher level.

These simple steps, if you do them every time you are not at peace, which is your true essence, can help you in several ways:

1. You immediately step out of the victim role. When you project your thoughts outside and blame someone because they “did” something to you, you get tangled up in the world of the ego, that is, in your thoughts that tell you that you are separated from God and everything else. This idea causes a lot of fear and any of its ramifications like guilt, anger, etc. In order not to feel them, you project them to the one who is outside of you.

2. You take back your power. When you are a victim, you have to wait for the other person or situation to change to be happy. By regaining your power, you can be happy just by changing your perception to one of love. It is being able to see beyond appearances to the perfect being in front of you, who, with his behavior, is telling you that he is unhappy and needs love. When you manage to do this every time something takes away your peace, little by little, it becomes natural and effortless.

It depends on you. In every moment, you can choose peace. And if you fail, choose again.

Principle 12: We can always see ourselves and others as extending love or giving a call for help.

As a young girl, I was nasty when I was upset. I used tones and put on faces, and when I was in that mood, no one could stand me. When we are acting unlovingly, we are disconnected in our minds from our true essence, which is love. It is a way we have to say, “I am unhappy. I need love.” The last principle: We can always see ourselves and others as extending love or giving a call for help applies here.

Usually, when someone speaks to us in an unpleasant tone, we react in the same way and respond, possibly, in a worse way. This reaction is because their unloving behavior reflects the lack of love that we feel. Here we return to the mirror theory.

I have a friend who was born wise. When I would get those outbursts, and I was mean to her, instead of answering me back, she used to think, “Poor Yve, today she must feel miserable.” Since she was a child, she lived this principle. It takes others longer to learn how to put it into practice. But, once we succeed, our relationships immediately change to ones of love.

Instead of seeing anger and attack, you can always see inappropriate behavior as the product of someone who is hurting because they feel unloved and are asking for help. It is the person’s inappropriate way of saying that they need to be loved. If you can see it like this, you can respond with love and compassion. That’s what I say to my granddaughter when she tells me that someone at school was rude or unfriendly: the more unbearable a person is, the more unhappy they feel inside.

If someone wants to hurt you, it is because they feel hurt. Unconsciously the person wants company on their level. Instead of lowering yourself to their level, bring them up to yours by giving them love and compassion.

A quote from Gandhi says, “No one needs a smile as much as one who cannot give it to others.”

Principle 11: Because love is eternal, death need not be viewed as fearful

Part of our judgment is about death. So many people are afraid of it. We begin to let go of the fear of death when we truly believe that what is real never changes and that Love is always present.

Death is merely a transition from one state of being to another. The body is temporary and is an instrument that we have created for our learning, but life, our essence, being spirit, is eternal.

One of the main messages that Jesus came to teach us with his death and resurrection is that death does not exist, that we are eternal because we are extensions of pure Love.

I was honored to witness the moment my grandmother, my mom, and my dad passed away. In all three cases, it was the same. I could feel the precise moment when the soul left the body. Once it was separated, the body lay inert, lifeless, when the energy was felt inhabiting that body a few seconds before. My feeling was that my relative was no longer that body. It was much more, but no longer that body .

My grandmother died at 93 years old. She told me that sometimes when she slept, she felt my grandfather, who had died years before. I always told her to remember that Love eternally unites us and that it was possible that my grandfather would visit her some nights while she slept. The day she died, my watch stopped at the precise moment that I felt her spirit leave my body. I have always thought that she sent me a message so that I would not doubt that what I said was true. Death does not exist. We are eternal.

Those experiences led me to the certainty that death is not to be feared, as we are eternal. What dies is the body. Our essence of love never dies.

I invite you to make an evaluation of what you think about death. Write down all the scary thoughts that come up. Look at them one by one. Stick with each thought until you can identify where your fear is coming from. Practice feeling your oneness with everything. This is achieved through silent meditation. When you achieve that mental silence, the barriers that you have put with your ego thoughts are eliminated and you only feel the peace and eternal love that you are. If you’ve never done it, try little by little until you can do it for at least 20 minutes. Once you can feel the love that you are, whenever you want, the fear of death will dissipate and you can enjoy life much more.